Don'ts
- Don't "enable" dependency! Do not do for your son/daughter
what he/she needs to do for him/herself! Do not call professors or us
because your son/daughter is "shy"…e-mail is a great
alternative to the telephone. All CCM full-time staff can be reached
by e-mail at …first initial last name@ccm.edu …for
example: dnast@ccm.edu .
- Don't open your son's/daughter's mail from the college!
Students must take responsibility for monitoring important communications
from the college. If you open letters and take that responsibility,
they will resent the intrusion and will not take responsibility for
themselves. If they miss a deadline or ignore important communication,
they must take the consequences!
- Don't ask for information that is confidential! We are
able to share information with you only if we have permission from your
adult student to do so! Don't call us to find out if your son/daughter
has been attending class…we can't tell you! Don't call us to find
out how he/she is doing…we can't tell you! You must ask your son/daughter
directly…only he/she can tell you!
- Don't allow or demand that your son/daughter work fulltime
and be a fulltime student! Although full-time students may not be
in class for 35 hours a week, they need at least 2-3 hours for homework
for every hour in class. That is a full-time job! Many students need
and/or want to work part-time…no more than 10-15 hours per week
is recommended. Remind them that school comes first…if there is
a conflict between work and school demands, maybe they need to reconsider
their priorities.
- Don't feel you can't reach out to CASE staff if there is
a problem! We are available to help with problem situations that
may arise and need our assistance to resolve. Have your son/daughter
call or come by to make an appointment. You are more than welcome to
join us at that discussion if your son/daughter so desires and requests.
It's up to our students to resolve problems…. with our help.
Together, we can teach them how to be strong self-advocates and successful
college students.
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